Do you know what makes you happy? Have you found the happiness that you are looking for in life?
I have always thought that happiness is state of mind of greatness you feel when you get things you want or achieved something big in life. But somehow, I think I'm missing something. Certain milestone or achievements in life so far has not given me the kind of happiness that I thought I would feel. You know, the feeling when you just feel like jumping and say Yippee!!
I am slowly realizing how I have started to burden myself with so many targets and deadlines in life since I was very young. How I have always thought that achieving all these set targets will give me happiness in life. I am so WRONG.
For instance my target list when I was 19:-
1) to buy a car at 21
2) to buy a life insurance policy at 21
3) to get married at 23
4) to have my first child at 24
5) to buy a house at 28
6) to graduate (part time study) before 30
7) get $ salary level by 30
That was my first target list that covers up to age 30. Looking back, some of it does not even make sense. Plan was to start early and you get to settle down early. That was the BIG plan. I was so forward thinking even to the type of house I was supposed to purchase. Suburb area, far from the city, windy, single storey corner house .. so that you will not have to worry about climbing stairs when you're old and the part about it has to be a corner house so that you can extend and your children can visit and sleep over during weekends.
Believe it or not ... I basically achieved all the targets set. I even got to get married at 23 and gave birth to my first child at 24 (I fell in love with the car salesman - when I bought my 1st car at 21). I was so worried that I don't get to fall in love. Luckily I found love. Thank god for all the achievements, but it came with big responsibilities and lots of adjusting to do. My first baby was such a crybaby .. with sleepless nights and constant crying .. and the next one popped out exactly one year after ... I was getting a bit depressed .... help!! I thank god constantly for making me strong and for all the blessings. I even survived all the adjustments I needed to do with my life partner. That was tough too and I survived! The house was a very bad choice and I got pregnant twice while doing my part time study! But thank GOD. I survived.
I know now that Happiness is not about getting what you want .. it is about giving, sharing, it is about contributing and definitely about give and take, try to take it easy and occasionally just hang out and chill.
I was lying on bed one morning when suddenly all the kids just hops on the bed and we just lie in bed chatting, sharing stories and we laughed a lot. That's happiness.
How about giving or contributing to the society, to the environment or even sharing something with someone or friends. Little things that you do can actually make you feel good and make you happy.
I read through my target list up to the big 50. There's nothing wrong about making such list as you need REMINDERS that can give you direction and focus to achieve things in life. But we just need to take it easy as the targets can get bigger and bigger as you grow old you may just stressed yourself up... AGAIN. So I decided to cross some targets from the list but still continue to dream and strive to achieve the targets that I decided to keep. I even put in extra targets that are more GIVING and some targets to prepare me for life after death. That's ultra IMPORTANT!!
I am sure that I will find Happiness now with my new set of targets .. with Allah's blessing.
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
Thursday, October 23, 2008
I'm full of Blobs
I am not feeling good. My eating habit seems to change so drastically for the last one month plus. I have been drinking lots of Teh Tarik, 3 in one coffee mix, cordial drinks .. I have not gone to the gym for almost 2 months. Of course you skip Gym during Ramadhan, but Ramadhan is over .. and I just don't feel like going back to Gym!! .. I am feeling lazy! Looking down at Ms Tummy, the blob is not looking good. Worst thing, I have 3 open houses to go this weekend and all I can think of is Food, Food and more food.
Thing is, I have been so good in avoiding sweets and chocolates and yesterday while waiting for the LRT train I indulged my self to a whole piece of Snickers bar. What the heck is happening to me? What happen to Control?
I need to get back to my normal self. I really need to ... OK .. now which is my normal self. The one who wallop everything and thinks it's OK since she's not getting fat anyway or the one who watch out what she eats coz she is fully aware that everything she eats will eventually have effects on her body? Let me think now ...
A colleague had a heart attack on Sunday September 28th. He died. He was the marketing head in the Philippines. We talk occasionally on the phone and communicate via emails most of the time about works, mostly about deadlines. Exactly my age. Young, slim, good looking guy. I was shocked and sad when I got the news. My first question was .. were there any symptoms? Felt guilty when I asked that question. It's like you know that when the time has come, you will go. If it's not time yet, even when you fall from 7th floor, you can still live. As Muslims, we know that. But I guess, we also know that we should take care of ourself all we can. I am not saying that my friend did not take care of himself. He just got back from a 3 weeks vacation and was looking forward to get back to work. He was also preparing for his wedding scheduled December this year. Gonna miss his warm voice...
As for me... I think I'll go back to my normal self... My normal self that makes me feel good.
Thing is, I have been so good in avoiding sweets and chocolates and yesterday while waiting for the LRT train I indulged my self to a whole piece of Snickers bar. What the heck is happening to me? What happen to Control?
I need to get back to my normal self. I really need to ... OK .. now which is my normal self. The one who wallop everything and thinks it's OK since she's not getting fat anyway or the one who watch out what she eats coz she is fully aware that everything she eats will eventually have effects on her body? Let me think now ...
A colleague had a heart attack on Sunday September 28th. He died. He was the marketing head in the Philippines. We talk occasionally on the phone and communicate via emails most of the time about works, mostly about deadlines. Exactly my age. Young, slim, good looking guy. I was shocked and sad when I got the news. My first question was .. were there any symptoms? Felt guilty when I asked that question. It's like you know that when the time has come, you will go. If it's not time yet, even when you fall from 7th floor, you can still live. As Muslims, we know that. But I guess, we also know that we should take care of ourself all we can. I am not saying that my friend did not take care of himself. He just got back from a 3 weeks vacation and was looking forward to get back to work. He was also preparing for his wedding scheduled December this year. Gonna miss his warm voice...
As for me... I think I'll go back to my normal self... My normal self that makes me feel good.
Wednesday, August 13, 2008
I just managed to find some old friends via Facebook!! Facebook is so cool!! Yeah!!
Ya.. ya .. you may be thinking that I am so out of date and I must admit that I am so way behind when it comes to the Internet Technology.
Just want to share that I am glad that I joined Facebook. It's exciting!! Bye for now!
Ya.. ya .. you may be thinking that I am so out of date and I must admit that I am so way behind when it comes to the Internet Technology.
Just want to share that I am glad that I joined Facebook. It's exciting!! Bye for now!
Saturday, August 2, 2008
LOVE
World is changing everyday, people change, mind change, feelings change ... love is a great feeling, sadly it can also change.
Remember when you were in love? That feeling that you feel, you just can't stop thinking about him, you always want to be with him, to hold hands and to share every moments of your life with him. You planned of building a happy family together, provide a nice home for your family, raising kids and growing old together and taking care of each other. Every single thing together!!
Don't ever fret if you feel lost somehow, that the feeling is just not the same anymore. Coz, love is something that you need to nourish so that it will blossom, so that it will not disappear without you knowing. A lot of work and efforts needs to be done by both sides to keep the feeling alive.
Never take things for granted and try to be sensitive to your partner, though sometimes it can tough! Life is too short, your life partner may not be some hero that you dreamed he could be, but he can be that hero, look into the positive sides, ya! there are definitely some if not many. The negative ones ... handle it with care or just let go! Appreciate .. it's important to appreciate. Can't imagine life without him. I do love him, hope he knows it ... maybe I should say it more..
Remember when you were in love? That feeling that you feel, you just can't stop thinking about him, you always want to be with him, to hold hands and to share every moments of your life with him. You planned of building a happy family together, provide a nice home for your family, raising kids and growing old together and taking care of each other. Every single thing together!!
Don't ever fret if you feel lost somehow, that the feeling is just not the same anymore. Coz, love is something that you need to nourish so that it will blossom, so that it will not disappear without you knowing. A lot of work and efforts needs to be done by both sides to keep the feeling alive.
Never take things for granted and try to be sensitive to your partner, though sometimes it can tough! Life is too short, your life partner may not be some hero that you dreamed he could be, but he can be that hero, look into the positive sides, ya! there are definitely some if not many. The negative ones ... handle it with care or just let go! Appreciate .. it's important to appreciate. Can't imagine life without him. I do love him, hope he knows it ... maybe I should say it more..
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Anyone for Calories?
Once upon a time, there lived a girl, who was blessed with high metabolism. She can eat all she wants without gaining weight. Deserts would be the main course if she gets the chance to eat at buffet lunches or dinners. She can practically stuff herself with cheesecakes, chocolate cakes, ice creams, all the sweet Malay kuehs that she dearly love…nothing else matters. Cadbury chocolate is something she eats while waiting for her ride home.
One day, this girl, this skinny girl turned 32 and while going through a health magazine, she stumbled into some very scary “information”. Scary enough that she has managed to shave off her bad, very bad eating habits. It’s not easy, but with determination, the progress has been positive.
Do you know that being skinny does not mean that bad calories won’t get inside your system? I bet you know that calories or bad fats can clog your arteries! But you just can’t resist the temptation, can you? One piece of that YUMMY Secret Recipe Indulgence is just not enough, you had to take 2. Hmm!!
Well, to start off.. absorb this .. SWEET STUFF CAN MAKE YOU GROW OLD FASTER …. another point … YOU CAN END UP GETTING a HEART ATTACK OR a STROKE! Especially if you’re an addict!!
Yup! Most deserts, sweet stuffs are not just bad for health but also bad for your skin. “Control” is the key Word here. Live healthy. Eat lots of fiber and lots and lots of vegetables and fruits and drink lots and lots of plain water. Oh Ya! Don’t forget to Exercise!!
One day, this girl, this skinny girl turned 32 and while going through a health magazine, she stumbled into some very scary “information”. Scary enough that she has managed to shave off her bad, very bad eating habits. It’s not easy, but with determination, the progress has been positive.
Do you know that being skinny does not mean that bad calories won’t get inside your system? I bet you know that calories or bad fats can clog your arteries! But you just can’t resist the temptation, can you? One piece of that YUMMY Secret Recipe Indulgence is just not enough, you had to take 2. Hmm!!
Well, to start off.. absorb this .. SWEET STUFF CAN MAKE YOU GROW OLD FASTER …. another point … YOU CAN END UP GETTING a HEART ATTACK OR a STROKE! Especially if you’re an addict!!
Yup! Most deserts, sweet stuffs are not just bad for health but also bad for your skin. “Control” is the key Word here. Live healthy. Eat lots of fiber and lots and lots of vegetables and fruits and drink lots and lots of plain water. Oh Ya! Don’t forget to Exercise!!
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
LEARN TO SWIM FROM A BOOK
Just want to share that you do not have to take a swimming lesson to learn how to swim. You can learn from a book! I didn't even buy a book, I borrowed it.
There are books that will provide you with step to step details on swimming techniques and styles, which includes photos that you can refer to. Once you have found the book, read it and imagine doing it in the water. Keep on reading again and again and imagine doing it. Just try to remember important details such as the breathing techniques and how you should be moving your hands and legs under water.
When you actually get in the water, with all the information in your head, all you have to do is just to practice it. Keep on trying, look at how other people around you are doing it. Wear your goggles and peep under water to look at their hands, legs and body movements. Concentrate, be brave and do not give up. That's how I learnt swimming. I still have problem doing the free style and I am still working on it.
If you do not know how to swim yet, go get a book and start now. If you do not have access to a swimming pool, at least you can try it the next time you go for a vacation with your family.
Other must haves when you go swimming are swimming suit (track pants and shirt is a NO NO), cap and a pair of goggles.
Good Luck and all the best!!
There are books that will provide you with step to step details on swimming techniques and styles, which includes photos that you can refer to. Once you have found the book, read it and imagine doing it in the water. Keep on reading again and again and imagine doing it. Just try to remember important details such as the breathing techniques and how you should be moving your hands and legs under water.
When you actually get in the water, with all the information in your head, all you have to do is just to practice it. Keep on trying, look at how other people around you are doing it. Wear your goggles and peep under water to look at their hands, legs and body movements. Concentrate, be brave and do not give up. That's how I learnt swimming. I still have problem doing the free style and I am still working on it.
If you do not know how to swim yet, go get a book and start now. If you do not have access to a swimming pool, at least you can try it the next time you go for a vacation with your family.
Other must haves when you go swimming are swimming suit (track pants and shirt is a NO NO), cap and a pair of goggles.
Good Luck and all the best!!
Sunday, July 20, 2008
Muslim Swimwear? What swimwear again?
Muslim swimwear? What is Muslim swimwear?
2 years ago, it was impossible to find suitable swimwear for Muslims. The best you can find maybe are those that covers all your body parts, but still reveal all the curves that you don't ever want to show off, especially to strangers! Those days are gone. Now, we can find Swimwear suitable for Muslims quite easily. Maybe it is still hard to find it in shopping complexes, but you can easily buy one via online shopping. You can choose to buy from various styles, qualities and brands and from all over the world, thanks to the miracle of the Internet.
Perception on Online Shopping is very different now. A lot of people actually buy stuff online and it's like a TREND. Online Shopping is becoming an IN thing now. Not like before. There are no boundaries, you can shop from all over the world, from your home just by clicking on your mousy. Is that great or what?!
Back to Muslim Swimwear, you now have the luxury to choose any style you like. There are ample styles to choose from and the best thing is that Muslim Swimwear are becoming more and more modest now. There are designs that are loose, with loose blouse and pants and those that actually have head cover that can cover your chest. There are also Muslim swimwear that actually have LYCRA spandex in it. This would be best for Muslims who really wants to swim or learn to swim, you know, not just sit by the pool to watch over your kids during their swimming activity.
Swimwear with LYCRA is of superior quality and it would be perfect for those who loves swimming as the material is light, it's low water absorbency, has UV protection and are chlorine resistance. It will definitely gives you a great swimming experience as LYCRA material is great under water. I would really recommend you to try Zikky Swimwear if you like swimming and are looking for quality swimwear. Just make sure you follow the CARE Label to care for your swimwear. You can buy one online via My1Stop website.
2 years ago, it was impossible to find suitable swimwear for Muslims. The best you can find maybe are those that covers all your body parts, but still reveal all the curves that you don't ever want to show off, especially to strangers! Those days are gone. Now, we can find Swimwear suitable for Muslims quite easily. Maybe it is still hard to find it in shopping complexes, but you can easily buy one via online shopping. You can choose to buy from various styles, qualities and brands and from all over the world, thanks to the miracle of the Internet.
Perception on Online Shopping is very different now. A lot of people actually buy stuff online and it's like a TREND. Online Shopping is becoming an IN thing now. Not like before. There are no boundaries, you can shop from all over the world, from your home just by clicking on your mousy. Is that great or what?!
Back to Muslim Swimwear, you now have the luxury to choose any style you like. There are ample styles to choose from and the best thing is that Muslim Swimwear are becoming more and more modest now. There are designs that are loose, with loose blouse and pants and those that actually have head cover that can cover your chest. There are also Muslim swimwear that actually have LYCRA spandex in it. This would be best for Muslims who really wants to swim or learn to swim, you know, not just sit by the pool to watch over your kids during their swimming activity.
Swimwear with LYCRA is of superior quality and it would be perfect for those who loves swimming as the material is light, it's low water absorbency, has UV protection and are chlorine resistance. It will definitely gives you a great swimming experience as LYCRA material is great under water. I would really recommend you to try Zikky Swimwear if you like swimming and are looking for quality swimwear. Just make sure you follow the CARE Label to care for your swimwear. You can buy one online via My1Stop website.
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